Be ok with imperfection and STOP comparing yourself to Beyoncé… not even Queen B is perfect, but she knows it and she owns it! You can too. Comparing yourself does nothing for your confidence and it just makes you think about all the things you think you don’t have instead of all of the things that you do have.
I LOVE the sisterhood. I believe it can be something so powerful and so uplifting. There is something so special about when a group of women come together and you can just feel their fu*king ability to take over the world!
But I have an issue that I need to get off my chest. If you keep reading do so at your own will. You have been warned.
Although the 5 steps that I gave in my last blog can be relevant in a lot of ways to anything that you want to ask for, here are a couple of suggestions for things that you can do to confidently prepare yourself to ask for what you want that might not specifically be about salary.
Then, it feels like out of nowhere they ask you for your salary expectations. You panic. You sweat. You stutter. If you are lucky you say your expectations with a molecule of confidence, but mostly just fumble through the sentence. You may even then put something on the end of the sentence like “Oh, but it’s really just about finding the right role. The money isn’t important to me!”. Eeeeeeeek. Sister, you are not alone.
Each day is a blessing, not just each new year. Instead of wiping the slate clean each year, we should be taking the lessons from each year and each day into the next. Use each year to continue to build on yourself and grow, not “start again” or be a “new you”. If you do that every year, you’ll be a new person every 12 months. You won’t give yourself the chance to be authentic, or to be truly vulnerable as to what your areas of opportunity for growth are because you are too busy wiping the slate clean to start again.
Why do I think I failed every year? Because I set myself up to fail from the start! I was never invested enough in these “resolutions” for them ever to work. I never had a plan for them. I never knew what success actually looked like. And if these resolutions were supposedly SO important to me, why did I wait to the start of a new year to decide to commit to them?
Often when we talk about career development, we talk about climbing the ladder, or taking that next step upwards, yet often we don’t know what this really means to us. We are conditioned to think that success always should mean a vertical climb, when in all truthfulness, success comes from achieving whatever YOU want to!