Overthinking has become an epidemic, and with the social media tap heavily flowing and constant communication and commentary not disappearing anytime we soon, we need to get stronger and more resilient at managing the reams of information that is thrown at us.
Most of us like surprises – but, this is only when they are surprises that we want. When they are surprises we don’t want, we refer to them as problems. Create more surprises that you WANT. Be in control of the good surprises as much as you can. Embrace the magic of planning to not plan.
Before you quit this blog or click the exit button because you think that I’m going to go and start some sort of, “what is the true meaning of life?” rant, that’s not what this is about (yes, you can breathe a sigh of relief!).
What I do want to talk about though, is why we often wait until something happens TO us, before we decide to make a change.
We live in a world now where the definition of taking time off isn’t truly realised. We go on leave, yet we still check our emails (whether expected to, or not), we think about all the things we didn’t get to. We take calls from colleagues on issues that they can work out themselves. Why? Why do so many of us take this ‘time off’, just to actually work or stay connected, but just from a different location?
Variety is the spice of life, I always say. And, like it or not, the only guarantee in life is taxes, death and that change will happen.
Getting out of your comfort zone is a good thing. Change and challenges are exciting. It is how we learn, and how we grow. Taking risks in our life and stretching ourselves is the way we find out what we really are made of, and we build up resilience.
Does the thought of networking in a large room on your own make you feel a wave of fear? Do you break out in sweats at the thought of walking into a room of strangers on your own and having to find someone to talk to? Does the thought of thinking of things to say to people you don’t know give you heart palpitations? You are not alone, my friend.
Is your Linkedin profile helping you, or hindering you? Firstly, do you have one? If not, you should. More than 500 million people now have a LinkedIn profile, with 2 new members joining every second! 94% of recruiters now cite Linkedin as a major recruitment tool they use to source and vet potential candidates.
I used to laugh when people would tell me that they were having some “self-care” time, or dedicating a day in their weekend to “self-care” . I didn’t understand it, or think I had the time for something as hippy-vibing as that. Then I became aware of the effect of not having this time as something you consciously include in your life.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone about your goals or your dreams and they look at you with a face like “You must be crazzzzzzy” – you just know they are thinking “tell her she’s dreaming”, and that that long list of ambitions and goals of what you want to achieve in your life is only ever going to stay just that. A dream.