At its very basic level, self-care is about, just that – caring for ourselves. Yet, after having a pretty scary wake-up call recently I have realised that NO amount of smoothies, meditation or walks along the beach, will save me from not taking care of myself at the very base level.
Part of the success of goal setting is ultimately creating a plan for success. It is all good and well to have the vision and goals, but without the plan in place to make them happen they are really just wish lists on a page or in your head. Also, your goals and vision should ultimately be underpinned by your values – these are what you consider to be the most important things in your life.
Here are the 10 major things that I have learnt this year and wanted to share with you – they’ve formed the basis of a lot of my blogs this year based on conversations I have had with people, challenges I have personally faced, and most definitely lessons that I have learnt along the way.
Your comfort zone is a behavioural space where your activities fit a chosen routine that ultimately minimises your stress and risk. It provides you with a state of mental security. The routine is then reinforced because you experience regular happiness, low anxiety and reduced stress. If we are experiencing happiness, minimal to no anxiety and little to no stress, why the f*ck would I mess with that, I hear you say?
You’ve finally done it. You’ve landed the dream job. The dream brand or Company, the title you’ve worked so hard for, and the money – whhhhhhoooop, show meeeeee the money! There is only one problem. Now that you are there, you’ve realised it’s not quite the dream job after all. Sh*t. Now, what do you do?
Be ok with imperfection and STOP comparing yourself to Beyoncé… not even Queen B is perfect, but she knows it and she owns it! You can too. Comparing yourself does nothing for your confidence and it just makes you think about all the things you think you don’t have instead of all of the things that you do have.
Then, it feels like out of nowhere they ask you for your salary expectations. You panic. You sweat. You stutter. If you are lucky you say your expectations with a molecule of confidence, but mostly just fumble through the sentence. You may even then put something on the end of the sentence like “Oh, but it’s really just about finding the right role. The money isn’t important to me!”. Eeeeeeeek. Sister, you are not alone.
Why do we do this? Not be fully present in one moment. Not be completely engaged and respectful when in dialogue with someone, or when in a job, a meeting, a holiday, whatever it might be? Why, so often are we looking for the next thing, or why do we so often feel the need to move SO fast that we don’t stop to enjoy and appreciate what we are currently doing. Is it FOMO? The fear of missing out on something, but then never really enjoying any ONE thing because we are trying to be a part of everything?