Here are the 10 major things that I have learnt this year and wanted to share with you – they’ve formed the basis of a lot of my blogs this year based on conversations I have had with people, challenges I have personally faced, and most definitely lessons that I have learnt along the way.
Have you ever stopped and considered what your personal brand is? What the message that you send out to world looks like? Whether you like it or not – we all have a personal brand. What vibe do you give off when you walk into room? The way you speak, the stories you tell, the way you communicate, the way you dress, this is all a part of your personal brand. Are you currently using it to your advantage?
My question to you is this. By not taking time to understand more about what drives you, motivates you, or triggers you, aren’t you actually the one living a sheltered, numb’ish experience of life? Aren’t you ultimately the coward who doesn’t want to know more about themselves so that they learn how to leverage their best skills, work on how to close some of their gaps and in the process become a more compassionate and understanding human towards the differences in other people?
You get to set the tone for your team and drive your objectives forward. It will be fun they said. It will be great they said. YOU will be great, they said.
Then reality hits. You’ve never managed people before. Infact, you are now managing people who last week were your colleagues. You used to whinge together over lunch about your manager – now you are that person. Sh*t. Will they talk about you behind your back too?
Be ok with imperfection and STOP comparing yourself to Beyoncé… not even Queen B is perfect, but she knows it and she owns it! You can too. Comparing yourself does nothing for your confidence and it just makes you think about all the things you think you don’t have instead of all of the things that you do have.
Although the 5 steps that I gave in my last blog can be relevant in a lot of ways to anything that you want to ask for, here are a couple of suggestions for things that you can do to confidently prepare yourself to ask for what you want that might not specifically be about salary.
Then, it feels like out of nowhere they ask you for your salary expectations. You panic. You sweat. You stutter. If you are lucky you say your expectations with a molecule of confidence, but mostly just fumble through the sentence. You may even then put something on the end of the sentence like “Oh, but it’s really just about finding the right role. The money isn’t important to me!”. Eeeeeeeek. Sister, you are not alone.